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So Long, Farewell, Auf Wiedersehen!

The Life List Club has been a wonderful experience of achieving goals, working with some excellent writers who are sure to be successful authors, and making many new friends.

After thirteen months of encouraging others to make life lists and find their own paths to their dreams, we feel we’ve accomplished what we set out to do.

We helped you and ourselves set out with the tools to reach your current and future goals. Now it’s time to take those tools and pave the road to those goals on your own with determination, perseverance, hope and a plan.

Jess and I hope you’ve found something valuable among the posts of the Life List Club and we wish you well on your journey. We’ll be setting out on our own journeys to enjoy those dreams we are so close to reaching.

Rainbow Lorikeet

This is Lucy Lorikeet, our representative, squawking at you, “Don’t give up. Don’t EVER give up!”
Photo courtesy of Karin Cox

Marcia and I would like to thank all the writers and bloggers who helped make Life List Club the inspirational place you all found it to be.  Some of you have been with us since the beginning, and others are just joining.  If you found motivation through these quirky and sincere individuals, then please take some time to check out their individual blogs where more of the same can be found!

The Full Line of Life List Club Bloggers:

 

MarciaRichards

JessWitkins

SoniaMedeiros

GaryGauthier

LaraSchiffbauer

SherryIsaac

DavidWalker

JennyHansen

GeneLempp

PamelaHawley

MhairiSimpson

CarrieMumford

CatieRhodes

EmilyMoir

Diana Ligaya

Thank you to everyone who read and shared their own life list with us over the past year!  You brought a joy and sense of accomplishment to our hearts more than you can imagine.  Wishing you all well!  Now take that goal list/bucket list/dream list, and go get ‘em!

Hugs,

Marcia and Jess

You Say Tomato…

Photo by benoit_d at Flickr

“What we see depends mainly on what we look for.” John Lubbock

Sometimes success seems elusive.  Before we get to where we want to be, we burn out, or lose interest in what we are striving for.  We become frustrated with where we are, and the results of our hard work.

It’s at these moments that perspective makes all the difference.

We begin writing goals and objectives with a certain destination in mind.  That destination is the best guess at what we want to achieve.  It may not be a measurable destination. It may not be a realistic destination.  It might be a destination filled with all the emotion of our hopes and dreams, and it might not ever be achievable.

But what happens when we are miserable and stressed out?  What do we do when our dreams don’t seem to be coming along as well as we’d hoped?  If we’re like most people, we say “Don’t give up.  You can do it.”  And maybe we can.  We never know unless we try, right?

There seems to be an embarrassment about changing our destinations, our goals.  If we say we are going to do “X”, then we can’t deviate from it.  If we do deviate from the plan, then we are weak and unsuccessful.

Is it a cop out to modify our goals?  I don’t think so.  At any given time we do what we can do, with the information we have.  Life changes, people change, and priorities change.  Why can’t our goals change?

What I appreciate about the John Lubbock quote above is the freedom to look at other pathways.  When we get to that point where our goals seem farther away than ever, and the motivation to continue on is fading, we can look at other options without being a failure.

Have you modified any goals lately?  Did you feel better or worse after you did so?

Don’t Waste Energy on Negativity

Worry is a misuse of imagination – Dan Zadra

On my blog, Motivation for Creation, I have posted quite a bit about self-doubt. Self-doubt is one of those plentiful emotions we all have, which kills creativity and destroys dreams.  Insidious in nature, one little negative thought worms its way into our psyche and leaves us confused of what our true abilities are.

Self-doubt is worry turned inward.  We worry we can’t do what is required to be successful and reach our goals.  We worry we aren’t as good as we thought.  We worry we bit off more than we can chew.  We worry we’re going to fail, and look stupid.  We may even worry that other people are laughing at us.

Think of all that energy we waste dwelling on… well, nothing, really.  All that worry is nothing but a bunch of electrical impulses in the synapses of our brains, a waste of imagination.

It all boils down to choices.

When we experience failure or rejection from outside of ourselves, which is usually the trigger to our self-doubt, we have a choice.

We can quit, or we can go on.

It really is that simple.

If we choose to continue to work to meet our goals, then we need to tell the little nasty inner critic to shut up.  Listening to the voice does us no good.  It only slows us down, or gives us indigestion.  Or both.

There are many different techniques to end bad habits, which is what listening to self-doubt is.  The technique I find most helpful is:

  1. Identify the negative thought.
  2. Tell it to shut up.
  3. Replace the negative thought with a positive one.
  4. Distract myself, often by doing something that will help me to reach the very goal I’m feeling insecure about.

Yes, it seems too simple.  However, it’s cognitive therapy.  It works.

Our minds really do believe what we tell it.  So, let’s stop wasting our imaginations.  Let’s be positive, and hopeful, and optimistic about ourselves and our abilities.  Let’s give ourselves every opportunity to be successful, and feel good getting there, as well!

Do you have any tricks to banishing negative thoughts?

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If you missed Gary Gauthier’s post on Wednesday, please scroll down and check it out.  He never disappoints!  Also, next Wednesday (June 13th) Jess Witkins is scheduled to post, so be sure to come back then!

PMS

We may not have it all together, but together we have it all.

One of the bloggers I follow regularly ran a post recently with a list of things PMS could stand for. Stupidly, I didn’t make a note of which blogger to give the credit to, so I apologize to whoever gave me the idea. I would credit you if I could.

Having made that half-baked attempt at attribution, let me proceed to give my take on a few of the ideas from that post.

PMS could stand for Pass My Shotgun. Actually, I’ve never been with a woman who was violent enough to use a shotgun. However, I’ve been with several who could make you wish they’d just use a shotgun and get it over with.

Psychotic Mood Shift. This one is a definite yes. When this happens, the best thing a husband or boyfriend can do is not have been there. Golf only take four hours or so, which is not nearly long enough. This must be why so many men love to fish. They can stay out an indefinite length of time and return after she’s over the symptoms.

Puffy Mid-Section. Hmmm. If I ever noticed this, I certainly wouldn’t notice it. I’m not saying whether I’ve seen such a phenomenon or not, but I wouldn’t notice it if I did. I’m smarter than that.

Provide Me Sweets. Well, maybe so, but be across the room and run fast to get out of there. (See fishing, above.)

Pardon My Sobbing. Okay, guys, here’s a real test. She DOES NOT want you to fix anything. Just hold her and pet her and say nothing at all. If she asks you a question, don’t answer. It’s a trick, and any answer you give is a reason to start a war. If holding her and petting her doesn’t work, see fishing advice.

Pissy Mood Syndrome. This is actually what the letters stand for. You guys know this is not really limited to the timing of her menstrual cycle. If you can appease her well enough to live that long, you’ll also discover that post-menopausal women can have PMS also.

Potential Murder Suspect. Although Pissy Mood Syndrome is the actual meaning of PMS, this captures the strongly possible result of it. We’re talking serious stuff here.

If you enjoy danger, go play with an anaconda or wrestle a crocodile or some such thing. Maybe attack an armed terrorist with a cap gun. Don’t challenge your woman when she’s exhibiting the signs of PMS. Go fishing instead.

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clip_image001David N. Walker is a Christian father and grandfather, a grounded pilot and a near-scratch golfer who had to give up the game because of shoulder problems. A graduate of Duke University, he spent 42 years as a health insurance agent. Most of that career was spent in Texas, but for a few years he traveled many other states. He started writing about 20 years ago, and has six unpublished novels to use as primers on how NOT to write fiction. He is currently putting the finishing touches on his non-fiction Web Wisdom: Godly Thoughts and Inspiration from the Inbox and starting his new fiction work—a series of novellas set during the period from 1860 to 1880.

Contact me at davwalktx@yahoo.com or tweet me at @davidnwalkertx

New Computer

We may not have it all together, but together we have it all.

Okay, everybody who enjoys getting a new computer and loading all the software onto it stand up and shout. I don’t hear you. How about the joy of building a whole new set of favorites? Hooking up to a home network so your new computer can communicate with your other one or run your printer?

Would you rather do all that once or twice? I thought so.

About five or six weeks ago, I decided to give my wife my desktop computer, since she preferred it to hers anyhow. I bought a new laptop to use both at home and when I’m away, and I gave her old one to a friend who reconditions them and gives them to people who can’t afford to buy new ones.

Since my desktop is several years old and hers was older than that, we both got upgrades out of the deal. And since she’d been using mine 90% of the time anyway, she had no learning curve or new installation or download process to go through. Me—well, that’s a different story.

I loved my new laptop, but I had a lot of work to do. First of all, every new computer comes with a bunch of junk loaded on it that I have no use for, so I had to try to figure out what to delete or disable and what I’d better leave alone—you know, just in case . . .

Then I had to drag out the CDs for all the software I had loaded on my old computer and install them onto the new one. What a crock! How come every time a program gets installed I have to reboot the computer? Oh, well.

When I downloaded Tweetdeck, I got a new version that’s a bunch of cra not as user-friendly as the old one. I fumbled around for a couple of weeks trying to adapt to it before I discovered how to download the old version.

Of course, I had to start saving websites to my favorites so I could get to them once again. Seems like I never find all the ones I want.

I don’t even try to work with my local network. I throw up my hands and call my tech buddy to come deal with it.

After three or four weeks, I finally had the printer working and probably 80% to 90% of what I wanted in place. Then the computer decided it didn’t want to boot up. I called my tech buddy, and he led me through everything he could think of to try to make it work, but nothing did. He finally told me to take it back to Best Buy. He was sure the Geeks could remedy the problem.

One of the Geeks worked on it for maybe ten minutes before deciding it had died and I needed a new one. I was actually one day beyond my thirty-day period for a free exchange, but they were kind enough to give me a new one anyway. As a matter of fact, the price had dropped about $30, so they gave me a credit for the difference. That’s about the only good thing I can find about all this.

Once I got home, I started dragging out all those CDs I’d so recently put up and reloading software. And downloading Twitter and Facebook and all that stuff, along with Yahoo and Google toolbars. Of course, half the stuff I installed came with its own toolbars, some of which installed themselves without asking me if I wanted them.

Then I had to try to find my Tweetdeck 0.38.2 again. I had carefully saved the information for downloading this, but I haven’t been able to figure out where I saved it. After a week or so of not thanking anyone for mentions and RTs, I finally got the right place to download this from. It’s now up and running, and I think I’ve caught up on thanking people. I hope.

Still got a few pieces of software to install, but I getting there. Now if I can just rebuild my favorites. Ack!

Right now, if I want to print something, I have to load it onto my flash drive and take it over to my desktop computer and print from there. I hope I can get my friend over before too long to remedy that, too.

Have you traded computers and had to go through this recently? If so, I hope only once.

Do you feel overwhelmed by your computer and all the programs we have to load and use, or is it just us old farts senior citizens who have trouble with it?

clip_image001David N. Walker is a Christian father and grandfather, a grounded pilot and a near-scratch golfer who had to give up the game because of shoulder problems. A graduate of Duke University, he spent 42 years as a health insurance agent. Most of that career was spent in Texas, but for a few years he traveled many other states. He started writing about 20 years ago, and has six unpublished novels to use as primers on how NOT to write fiction. He is currently putting the finishing touches on his non-fiction Web Wisdom: Godly Thoughts and Inspiration from the Inbox and starting his new fiction work—a series of novellas set during the period from 1860 to 1880.

Contact me at davwalktx@yahoo.com or tweet me at @davidnwalkertx

What Has My Life List Taught Me? by Jenny Hansen

Photo from GreenManolo.com

Baby steps count. A lot.

There have been times over my last ten months with the Life List Club where those tiny little steps to “somewhere” were ALL I could take.

And they’ve made all the difference in the world.

Baby steps have kept me from having panic attacks when I think of my dreams and do you know why?

I stopped thinking about the entire huge, impossible, far-int0-the-future ‘here’s what I want to be when I grow up’ kind of dreams. Thinking about big dreams makes me run backwards, hands wheeling in the air, panic in my chest.

I discovered this the hard way, when I wasn’t getting anything done.

I joined ROW80 and started doing tiny, manageable things:

  • “x” number of blog posts per week
  • “x” number of writing minutes per day
  • “This many” miles walked each week
  • Diet changes like giving up gluten and nothing else

Then I joined the Life List Club and added some work/life balance items to my list of goals. (Click here for my Life List.)

And you know what? It’s working! I’m crossing things off my Life List every single quarter. There’s still more to do, but part of why this is my last LLC post is that many career doors are opening for me as a result of all these baby steps.

I saw a graphic with a quote the other day that resonated with me:

Follow your dreams to reach your goals
& Follow your goals to reach your dreams.

That’s powerful, heady stuff. All we have to do is chase GOALS and the rest will come.

Whoa.

Like, if I make a Life List and just go for crossing things off it, the Universe will put opportunity in my way? It sure seems that way to me.

Chasing dreams will take you to places you’ve never been. I’m betting you’re going to like those places. 🙂

Thank you, to every single member of the Life List Club, including those who are no longer with us, for supporting me on my journey and sharing your own journey with me. I will miss posting with you, but I’ll remain an avid reader and fan!

Do you make lists of your life goals? Why or why not? Can you think of just one step you can take that will start you on the road to that dream you want more than anything else? Will you share it?

About Jenny Hansen

Jenny fills her nights with humor: writing memoir, women’s fiction, chick lit, short stories (and chasing after her toddler Baby Girl). By day, she provides training and social media marketing for an accounting firm. After 15 years as a corporate software trainer, she’s digging this sit down and write thing.

When she’s not at her blog, More Cowbell, Jenny can be found on Twitter at jhansenwrites and at her group blog, Writers In The Storm. Every Saturday, she writes the Risky Baby Business posts at More Cowbell, a series that focuses on babies, new parents and high-risk pregnancy.